Is Turning 30 the finality

Spent the better part of my 20’s nervous about what my 30’s would look like. I was fixated on all the norms the society has conditioned me to think. Not that I didn’t second guess it for a minute but It can be hard honing your opinion when normalcy seem like the right thing to do. People make it seem like one have failed if they don’t have a thriving career, married or even have children at 30. I thought of 30 as waking up with wrinkles on my face, old and undesirable. News flash everyone, It is all a MYTH. I am a couple of months away from 30 and I cannot explain my excitement towards it. The closer I get to my new age, the more confident, self sufficient and self aware I am. I am at the peak of my career and making positive life changing decisions. I know exactly what I deserve and would not accept anything sub par.

I am not married and I don’t have children. But I tell you what, I have never been happier. I have grown so much in the last decade, I’m glad I never made any of the above decisions in my 20’s. It would have been the worst mistake of my existence. Below are things that being 30 actually does:-

You only invest in relationships that grow you and spend your time with people that genuinely have your interest at heart

I have always enjoyed spending time alone. I would never be found in a gathering as a result of peer pressure, I am very selfish with my time and the people I spend it with. I don’t have any business compromising my values as a result of trying to fit into a group of people. I am more assertive and quite vocal when it comes to turning down requests that do not work for me. Turning 30 wouldn’t change that!

You only have conversations that are meaningful and insightful

I was spending the day on the beach one weekend alone. Then, some lady asked if she could join me. I was fine with it and we started having conversations about body confidence, women in the work place e.t.c. Not for once did we talk about men or boys. I said this because 18 year old me would have engaged in such conversations. We later laughed about it and she said to me, “it’s not every time I get to interact with strangers like this, my friends think I’m weird and too serious”. Looking forward to more of this in my 30’s. If the conversation wouldn’t challenge or grow me, I have no business having it.

You will be in tune and more familiar with yourself

Living in your truth will be the goal, living up to another person’s standard and seeking validation from people will be a thing of the past. You will embrace your insecurity and prioritise people who only prioritise you. However, here is what they forget to tell you: Exercise and eat only healthy meals. Most importantly, take care of your body and train your mind.

Ultimately, you will know there is no such thing as 30 being a finality. You may not have your dream job, your love life may be in shambles and your finances may be in turmoil. Don’t worry you are not the only one. Set those goals again and smash them. You’re not mediocre nor a failure.

Now continue to grow, blossom and take ownership of your mistakes. Work towards being a better version of you. You are only as young as you feel and vice versa. I am turning 30 soon and I have never been so excited. I’m planning destinations, looking forward to exploring new cities and learning about new cultures. Not a husband nor a child is on my goal for 30.


3 Comments

  1. Grace w
    April 15, 2019 / 8:11 am

    This is such an interesting read. It’s great to see someone articulate my thoughts

    • admin
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      April 17, 2019 / 5:51 am

      Thank you

  2. Lin Jones
    April 15, 2019 / 8:13 am

    Very well said

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